1. Get up earlier than everyone else.
Having a little 'me' time before I get bombarded with the responsibilities of my day, really has helped me keep my Zen and tackle tasks with less stress. Just being able to brush my teeth without a toddler pulling at my shirt, helps me feel like I've completed something for that day. On the days I actually am able to shower, get dressed and put makeup on before he wakes up, those are the best days. They don't always happen, but when they do I feel like a real person and not just mom who lives in sweatpants who always has that dry-shampooed bedhead and a toddler attached to her leg. It's true for me when they say, If I look like my best self, I feel like my best, and I then can be my best self. (That's probably not the right quote but you know what I mean).
2. Find beauty in the chaos
You heard me, chaos means memories to me, it means things are happening that are sometimes messy, but that doesn't mean bad. So, it's ok if you have dishes in the sink, a floor covered in cheerios and toys, and a laundry pile that has been looking at you for days. It's ok if that blog post you promised the company would go live Tuesday if it doesn't actually get posted on Wednesday, life will go on. If everyone is fed, clothed and happy, you're doing just fine.
3. Make time for me (I struggle with this one a lot still)
Here's the thing, if the captain of the ship didn't sleep for 3 days, only ate crackers and string cheese and had no human contact besides a 1-year sing along to Moana, do you think he would be fit to lead his castmates into the sea and lead his team into rough waters? No way, the ship would probably sink because the leader would be too exhausted to actually lead them. You are the leader of the house and you are leading your children by your example. Make sure you are on the top of that list of priorities. Take what you need, when you need it. I need a daily dose of reality TV paired with chocolate covered almonds and a glass of wine. That's what makes my love tank full. You decide what works for you, and make sure you don't skip what you need to care for everyone else. That means, yes you have permission to sit on the couch midday if you need to regroup or recharge. Ignore prepping dinner, taking out the trash and skip a post one day if you need to. You do things for YOU girl, cause when you do, everyone benefits from it.
4. Plan out your days. (please read #5 alongside this one)
Make a weekly plan of things. Not daily. Cause we all know we can end up having "one of those days" and if you only plan one day, it will ruin your whole week. So, I like to plan my week, I like variety so I don't always have the same plan on each of my days of the week. I do have a general idea of things that go something like this.
7-8am: Me time (which does usually includes an Instagram post) It's so much easier for me to posting before Finn wakes up, because after 8 am- it's 100% his time.
8-10am: Morning routine with Finn, diaper changes, teeth brushing, breakfast, teepee play time, etc.
10am-11am varies depending on the day. Somedays we go for walk, some days we watch a movie, and some days we run errands (Target, duh).
We usually have a snack/lunch before naptime which is between 11 or 12.
11:30am-2pm-ish: Finn's nap time. This is my time to catch up on emails, collaboration opportunities, plan content for the next few days, edit photos, etc. I also need to find time to eat myself in here, so somedays, that gets skipped.
2-4pm: This time is fully dependent on the type of day Finn is having. He sometimes prefers individual play time, so I am able to do the dishes, clean the house, or fold the laundry while he builds a train, reads his books, plays with his cars. And some days, it's all "I wanna hold you, mama," all day long. Those days are hard because I just can't get anything done with him on my lap.
4-6pm: errands, dinner prep, or playdates
6-7pm: dinner, bath, bedtime
7-9pm: Wife duties, dinner, dishes, tv with hubs
9 pm---- ME TIME! This is actually when I do my best work. I plan my post for the next morning, or I write my blogs. When everyone else is in bed. Thankfully, Jason goes to bed at 9 pm every night he is home, so I am able to stay up and focus on my blogger responsibilities uninterrupted.
5. Be adjustable
Things won't always go as planned, actually, most of my days never go as I planned, but I had to learn to live with the chaos and embrace it really. Some days are easy, some are not, but that's why it's great that success isn't measured in a day. I like to think of it like a toddler's food plan. If they get all they need in a week's worth of meals, one bad day of donuts, snacks and skipping all veggies are ok. As long as it's balanced out with the other days of the week. If by the end of the week, you've hit all the food groups; that one day doesn't matter. Apply that same rule to your mom, wife, and influencer duties and if at the end of the week you've fit them all in, you can consider that week a success.
6. Be honest with your client, friends, husband and yourself
Most of the time we want to hide our insecurities and just hope everything looks "perfect" when some days it's just not. I found that when I was honest about what was happening in my chaotic life, it made me much more relatable. I tell brands, "Sorry if I'm a little scattered, Finn has been super sick and took 1 hr nap instead of 3 hrs so, I'm a little behind on things and I may need to push the post a day or two. Hope that's ok." I tell my friends, "Guys, Finn just rubbed sunscreen all over the dog, can I call you back?" I also let me husband know, "Today was tough, I need you to take over dinner and bath routines tonight. Would you mind helping?" If you are transparent with everyone, trust me, they will usually understand and be empathetic.
7. Take advantage of the time after bedtime
Oh, you so know what I mean, right? The moment you put the baby down for bed and you do your happy dance because you have whole 2-3 hours (depending on your bedtime) to get things done. Or some nights, to actually just do nothing at all. Some nights I like to shower, meal prep, load the dishwasher and straighten all the toys before I go to bed so I can start the morning without those on my list. Because the more I get done at night, the better I feel in the morning. Also, I try and make at least one night about my husband. Just time for me and him. Whether that's a glass of wine on the patio talking about our memories and our future, or if it's just cuddled on the couch binge-watching our fav shows in silence; I try for one night of uninterrupted husband and wife time.